How do you forget someone?

Get. Under. Someone. Else.

Posted 7 months ago by Babb tipped with 1K

Cake – and lots of it – is a damned good start.

Meeting someone new (join a club; join a group; flail yourself across Facebook if you have no fear; be brave enough to let your closest friends set you up on blind dates) is damned good seconds.

But all in all, I’d advise you not to go on some sexual crusade as a way to psychologically numb the loss of closeness. Such a course of action never works in the long run and you’re more likely than not end up feeling even worse than you do now.

Just saying like.

Do not take my advice as read I am a rather cynical old bint

Posted 7 months ago by CarmenM

Have them killed.

offers card

beagleskin loves the jobs you hate

Posted 7 months ago by Beagleskin

Now why didn’t I think of such a simpler solution, Mizz Beagle? Could’ve saved myself hours and hours of compassion.

CarmenM hates the jobs you love

Posted 7 months ago by CarmenM

Please let me know what you come up with. My three-pronged solution of narcotics, mania and passive aggression isn’t working. (Gasp.)

Perhaps you should try and recapture the micro-joys of simpler times. I spent the first twenty-eight years of my life counting my teeth with my tongue. And it made me very happy, as I recall.

Posted 7 months ago by Strawhair tipped with 2K

I’m very sorry this has happened. You must know people who’ve been in a similar situation, perhaps over a year ago, and are now slightly tougher and wiser, not to mention more sophisticated and sexier. That’ll be you, that will.

In the mean time find some of those sophisticated, sexy, wise people and befriend them if for no other reason than they’re good company.

Also I am you, and you are me. Are you sure you’re not confusing misery with fatigue, because I’m knackered.

Posted 7 months ago by MarkE

I agree with Babb – the best way to get over one man is to get under the next one. It worked for me last year when my marriage broke up. I was single for all of three weeks before meeting my boyfriend on a night out.

*Do remember to stay safe though[/safesexlecture]

Posted 7 months ago by Skybabystar

But if you’re in love with somebody, the thought of ‘getting under’ someone else makes you feel physically sick. Doesn’t it?

Maybe its just me

Posted 7 months ago by Strawhair tipped with 1K

Horses for courses, I think, Strawwhore. I’m with you though. Losing love sort of makes other people even less shiny surely.

Posted 7 months ago by Beagleskin

But if you’re in love with somebody, the thought of ‘getting under’ someone else makes you feel physically sick. Doesn’t it?

No?

Posted 7 months ago by Babb

I spent the first twenty-eight years of my life counting my teeth with my tongue. And it made me very happy, as I recall.

Thanks for reminding me of that. I’ve forgotten that I too used to count my wisdom teeth. Am now watching a show on American Beauty pageants and counting my teeth as I type. Being single lets you be who you really are.

Posted 7 months ago by ellie

Teeth counters of the world unite!

I’ve also rekindled my enthusiasm for pointing when I dance. (But that I’m less happy about.)

oh my god my life is fruitless

Posted 7 months ago by Strawhair tipped with 2K

Oh yeah – physical exercise (which I suppose might entail getting under someone else although that wasn’t what I had in mind). Blah blah endorphins, good distraction, yadda feel better for a bit.

Write it down which I’m not sure really helps, but helps give you perspective in the future.

Find a good friend and bend their ear about how shit you feel – more get it out of your head than get it off your chest.

Try not to lose momentum in everything else. Not eating properly/regularly can worsen an already crappy mood. Don’t drink alone. All common sense advice really.

Go for a night out. There is no problem that boogying can’t aid.

There’s always the toxic suggestions: Find other previous ex’s and compare notes; vamp it up around his/her single friends; destroy possessions; character assassination; believing Sex in The City. Really, don’t do any of these things. Any of them.

Posted 7 months ago by MarkE

believing Sex in The City

But…..but…....

Posted 7 months ago by Babb

“Being single lets you be who you really are.”

Otherwise known as “Secret Single Behaviour” where you sit around the house in your pants whilst watching Jeremy Kyle and eating beetroot and pickled eggs out of the jar and not giving a shit about spilling the juice down your front. Not that I do this of course…...

Posted 7 months ago by Skybabystar

Abduction. Torture. Possibly some skinning.

peelings

Posted 7 months ago by UncleGeorge